Last night I was on the phone with a friend and she was telling me how her brother is finally getting married 🥰!! The excitement in her voice was so heartwarming and I was like Aaw this is soooo good to hear and then I asked who is the girl? Did you meet her yet?
Her tone totally changed 🤦🏽♀️…and she said yaar she is an average looking girl…works somewhere full time and has no sense of dressing 🙄. And this made me think…why can’t we be acceptable of relationships…why we want our bhabi or bahu (sister in law/ daughter in law) to look a certain way? Why we have a criteria 🤔…
When my older brother was getting engaged…my parents told us sisters…if we love our brothers we will have to love our bhabi’s even more!! When your brother has a special toy..something that comforts him…don’t we as sisters take care of it? Don’t we try to keep it clean, won’t let it break or get lost…just so our brother is happy? Just like that our bhabi is someone special to our brother…we need to make sure we love them…in return our sibling bond with our brother will always stay strong!!
The moment you show your sibling (brother or sister) you are not happy with their spouse..your bond with them will start to get weak! Be acceptable of the reality of life…if you start complaining you will become the sour grape everyone puts aside 😨
Let’s be happy with these sensitive roles we all have to play…it’s mostly us women who have issues with each other…let’s change this for good!! Let’s aim to love our bhabi’s and Bahu’s more then our brothers or sons!!
And let’s be a positive bhabi to your nands as well!! If you are someone’s mother in law or sister in law…please give the girl the respect she deserves…no one becomes a part of your family with bad intentions…all girls want to start life on happy terms…if we don’t treat them right..it gets harder for them to connect to you..
I called my friend back this morning and told her how I felt.. I told her I am sad with her response and she said he is my baby brother…I always had an image of a pretty girl to be his wife…but I guess you are right! I will respect his choice and give her love and acceptance she deserves InshaAllah!
I wish all women learn to love and respect each other…one happy woman can make an entire family happy…let’s be that one woman today ❤️..